Marceta Reilly

Leading from Within

Team_work_350I believe that leadership is an activity, not a position. Everyone can exert leadership skills no matter where they are on an organizational chart. You don’t have to be the “team leader” in order to suggest an idea, bring a perspective, or do something that helps the group move forward to make positive progress.

This kind of leadership starts with establishing high trust and rapport in relationships with your colleagues. Listen deeply to what others say—not just at the surface level but also to their underlying message. Pose good questions from a position of curiosity and encourage others to think from multiple perspectives. Give feedback that moves people to action rather than defensiveness.

This way of being helps you become an influencer who inspires and challenges others to bring their best selves to the work. Your mindset is to help the team be collaborative and invite the members to contribute their best efforts. This perspective can be very transformative for you, your school, and your teams. It lets you step into your role of informal leader with a sense of confidence and courage.

The beauty of being an informal leader is that others begin to see you as an “expert”– not because you give them the answers to their issues, but because you caused them to think more deeply and more analytically about their own ideas so that really good solutions arise. They feel empowered and needed in order to get the work done.

This kind of leadership seeks to develop the strengths and interests of others. It is not one person who determines success; it is the group which creates success. This engenders a culture of continuous improvement and shared pride in achievements.
As the school year begins, in what ways will you “show up” as a leader?

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How Challenges Defy Our Best Intentions

Man Technical v AdaptiveLeadership, at its core, is about resolving problems and challenges. Ron Heifetz, co-founder of the Center for Public Leadership at the Kennedy School of Government, describes two basic kinds of challenges: technical challenges and adaptive challenges. Many challenges have both technical and adaptive aspects.

Technical challenges can be resolved with current expertise, applying existing know-how, and following known protocols. The solutions are within the current way of operating. For example, a consulting firm offers a brilliant diagnostic analysis of technology needs for the organization and makes a set of recommendations to implement the changes. Problem solved—just work the plan. The thinking is that “we just need to know enough to create the plan to solve the challenge.”

Adaptive challenges, on the other hand, cannot be resolved by existing approaches alone. The solution is outside the current way of operating and requires that the people themselves learn new skills and make some changes in their own thinking and ways of operating. In the technology plan example above, nothing will truly be solved until those recommendations are lived in the new way that people operate. To make those changes people have to take responsibility for learning a whole new set of priorities and habits.

This is why being “coach-like” in your leadership can be very powerful. Coach-like leadership behaviors more often result in solution ideas that address the adaptive challenges within a problem. The purpose of being “coach-like” is to influence — not direct — others to make meaningful changes. It requires that leaders think of themselves as partners and collaborators rather than experts and bosses.

In this new way of being, the leader does not have to know all the answers. In fact, there is new research by Brene Brown in her book Daring Greatly that this kind of vulnerability can actually be an asset. If the leader does not have all the answers, then there is a real need for others to get involved in the decision making. The leader asks questions, listens to the content and underlying themes in the answers, and then is able to integrate the group’s thinking into a vision and direction to which people respond.

What adaptive challenges are you facing as this new school year begins?

What is your inner voice saying about your leadership?

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10 Truths About Building School Teams

Trust School TeamsAs the beginning of the school year nears our thoughts move to ways to build and support strong, effective school teams. They are vital to having success with students. And a key to team development is having high emotional intelligence—learning to recognize and manage your own emotions and those of others.

Our role as leaders is to use that EQ to develop and model strong relationship-building skills within teams. That is task #1 in a school year–developing trust and rapport with school teams, individual members, and the leadership of them. That’s how leaders help develop, support, and sustain strong, effective teams.

Read more from Elena Aguilar’s blog this week. For me #5, #7, and #9 are most important…

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Build Capacity, See Each Person’s Worth!

Building CapacityAll educators want to believe that teachers love kids and are true advocates of them. We remember with warmth and appreciation those teachers who spotted our strengths, loved our quirks, and inspired and challenged us to dream big and do our best. In fact, it is often the memory of those teachers who inspired us to become educators ourselves.

Yet almost everyone also has a story about a teacher who made them feel small and worthless. Those memories do much harm.

Brene Brown spoke about this issue in Daring Greatly. She said, “One reason that I’m confident that shame exists in schools is simply because 85 percent of the men and women we interviewed for the shame research could recall a school incident from their childhood that was so shaming that it changed how they thought of themselves as learners. What makes this even more haunting is that approximately half of those recollections were what I refer to as creativity scars. The research participants could point to a specific incident where they were told or shown that they weren’t good writers, artists, musicians, dancers, or something creative. This helps explain why the gremlins are so powerful when it comes to creativity and innovation.”

As we get ready to start another school year, it is very important that we show up as Capacity Builders—for kids and for the adults with whom we work. Look for stories we can tell each other about the abilities, creativity, resourcefulness, and resilience we see in each child and adult around us.

This video clip entitled “Career Day” from the movie You, Me, and Depree, is a good reminder for us all.

We all have special gifts and talents to bring to the world. Let our schools be places where we nurture and care for stories about individual worth and value. Let’s become Big Tents where the contributions of each person are recognized and honored.

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Coaching Educators to Enhance Leadership

Recently, Rebecca Weber, a freelance reporter in South Africa, interviewed me for an article in the newsletter for St. Thomas University online. She asked me what role coaching plays in our schools. Here is my response: Wouldn’t it be great to have a coach for every new teacher and administrator?

Coaching Educators to Enhance Leadership
Posted June 10, 2015 by Rebecca L. Weber

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Marceta Reilly, a leadership coach and co-author of “Coaching Conversations: Transforming Your School One Conversation at a Time” wishes every educator could have a coach for their entire first year in a new role. She believes it could help curb the high attrition rate of
new teachers.

“I think we would lose fewer of them if they had a true coach who isn’t just about fixing problems, but really about self-discovery,” says Reilly, a former principal and superintendent. The delicate and pivotal coaching experience can set teachers up for reflective excellence over the course of a career.

“If you approach coaching as simply helping people do stuff, that’s fine,” says Reilly. “It’s not transformative for their careers. What’s transformative is when as a coach you help people understand their strengths, find their voice, and step into their own personal authenticity.”

Mentors are frequently veterans who give advice based on their own expertise, whereas the coach is more of a guiding role.

“You can be very coach-like in your mentoring,” says Reilly. “Helping them understand best practices in instruction and … using the strengths they bring to the table. It’s very individualized.”

Reilly coaches first-year principals, who often have “huge anxiety” about knowing all the answers to every question their staff might
ask. “They think they have to be chief problem solver,” she says.

When principals let go of the idea of being the expert and having all the answers, it allows them to instead engage, she says. After a teacher explains a challenge, the principal can then ask “What are your ideas?” and can then affirm that the approach makes sense.

“Often teachers come with problems, but actually want validation. Often, you just affirm what they say: ‘Yep, that’s a good approach,’”
she says.

Coaching conversations

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A coaching conversation is “the major tool for developing leadership skills” and should be about helping somebody else to do their best thinking, says Reilly. Building trust and rapport are paramount. Here are her suggestions for integrating the coach approach:

  • Listen deeply. Not just to what they say, but listen for any underlying emotions or assumptions.
  • Show up as a thinking partner. This is a mindset: The coach is not an expert trying to fix somebody, but approaches the conversation believing that the other person has the capacity to grow, and the capabilities to solve the problem at hand.
  • Ask really good questions to help them reflect and develop insights.
  • Give good feedback that moves them to action. “Telling them what they are or are not doing well promotes pushback.”

Culture of self-improvement

When it comes to their students, educators typically see the value in continuous learning and improvement.

But many schools still work in the paradigm that once a teacher has received their training and credentials, they are experts and largely autonomous in their classroom.

A teacher may already have a reflective teaching practice, bolstered by active reading and study groups, as well as occasional workshops for professional development. But they are limited by what they’re conscious of — and that’s where the coach can come in. A good coach
will identify and discuss elements that the teacher is unconscious of.

For those who are in a traditional leadership role, embracing coaching may seem like a threat to authority.

“The biggest challenge is to let go — that you’re not going to be considered credible if you don’t have the answers,” Reilly says. “Like Brené Brown, you have to make yourself a little vulnerable.”

The coach approach

jim_knightJim Knight

Instructional coaches work in partnership with teachers, helping them set and reach their own goals. Good coaching is adaptive to meet the changing needs of the complexities of teaching in the modern classroom.

“We modify things until we hit the goal,” says Jim Knight, director of the Kansas Coaching Project and author of “Instructional Coaching:
A Partnership Approach to Improving Instruction.”

When working with teachers, Knight’s team emphasizes two important principles:

  • Try to respect the autonomy of the teacher. “When you insist, they resist,” says Knight.
  • Believe in the coaching process. “This has an unmistakably positive impact on kids’ lives,” he says.

Getting on the same page

Knight favors peer-to-peer coaching relationships. “They’re more forthcoming with peers than with administrators,” he says. The ideal scenario is one of transparency and safety. If that’s not the culture, then concerns about privacy and what will be shared arise.

“When you’re a coach, you’re privy to people with their guard down.”

That doesn’t mean that principals can’t model coaching as well — in fact, when they’re on the same page, they can lead change in
incredibly effective ways. “A principal needs to walk the talk,” says Knight.

For example, if the principal wants teachers to videotape their classes, then the principal needs to model this and also record and
review his or her own video, and discuss what s/he learned.

Make the process transparent

Transparency can make the process less intimidating and help educator relationships move forward.

“Teach them what you want: ‘If you have a problem, first I’m going to ask you what you’d do. If you have something I want you to think about, I’ll be honest and tell you.’ It’s scary to do that. You feel like you’re taking a big risk,” Reilly says.

Modeling for staff what it means to try something new underscores authentic commitment. “It’s counterintuitive, but they begin to think
you are the smartest person in the world — even though you are just pointing them to resources.”

Rebecca L. Weber is a journalist who covers education, the arts, the environment, and more for the New York Times, CNN, USA Today, and other publications. Visit her online at www.rebeccalweber.com or on Twitter @rebeccalweber.

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Why Leading By Example Builds a Great School

geese-leadersGood leaders must lead by example. Through their actions, which are aligned with what they say, they become a person others want to follow. When leaders say one thing but do another, they erode trust, a critical element of productive leadership. Here are 10 of the dozens of ways to lead by example.

1. Take responsibility. Blame costs you your credibility, keeps team members on the defensive and ultimately sabotages real growth.

2. Be truthful. Inaccurate representation affects everyone. Show that honesty really IS the best policy.

3. Be courageous. Walk through fire (a crisis) first. Take calculated risks that demonstrate commitment to a larger purpose.

4. Acknowledge failure. It makes it OK for your team to do the same and defines failure as part of the process of becoming extraordinary.

5. Be persistent. Try, try again. Go over, under or around any hurdles to show that obstacles don’t define your school, district, or team.

6. Create solutions. Don’t dwell on problems; instead offer solutions and ask your team for more.

7. Listen. Ask questions. Seek to understand. You’ll receive valuable insights and set a tone that encourages healthy dialogue.

8. Delegate liberally. Encourage an atmosphere in which people can focus on their core strengths.

9. Take care of yourself. Exercise, don’t overwork, take a break. A balanced team, mentally and physically, is a successful team. Model it, encourage it, support it!

10. Roll up your sleeves. Like Alexander the Great leading his men into battle, you’ll inspire greatness in your company.
Author’s content used with permission, © Claire Communications

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16 Ways to Maintain Balance in Your Life

see-saw-240650_300If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you feel like a tightrope walker, you’re not alone. Most of us have so many demands on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus.

Take this quiz to see how well you are meeting responsibilities, while also recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants.

TrueFalse1. The only way I can successfully manage my life is to take care of myself physically and emotionally.
TrueFalse2. Nurturing myself enlarges my capacity to help others.
TrueFalse3. I eat healthfully and exercise regularly.
TrueFalse4. I get check-ups, go to the dentist, and take preventative precautions.
TrueFalse5. I set aside personal, quiet time for myself, whether I’m meditating or simply letting my thoughts drift.
TrueFalse6. I experience the gifts of each season: ice skating, sledding, bundled-up beach walks; gardening, hiking, more time outside; camping, swimming, barbeques; harvesting the bounty, gathering wood, spending more time inside.
TrueFalse7. Creativity nurtures me, too. I do what I love, whether that’s cooking, drawing, painting, writing, dancing, singing or another creative pursuit.
TrueFalse8. Reaching out to others enriches my life. I spend quality time with family and friends.
TrueFalse9. Contributing to the world provides connection and purpose, so I give my time, energy and experience where it is most useful.
TrueFalse10. I notice and heed the emotional signals that tell me I’m out of balance: irritability, overwhelm, resentment.
TrueFalse11. If I feel that I’m catching a cold, I realize I may have stressed my immune system with over-activity, so I stop and take care of myself.
TrueFalse12. When I need or want to, I say no to requests for my time.
TrueFalse 13. I listen to and honor the requests my body makes for such things as a nap, a walk, green vegetables, hot soup.
TrueFalse14. If I have something planned for myself, I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request of me.
TrueFalse15. I’m busy, but I find time to do the things I want to do.
TrueFalse16. I’m happy. I regularly experience well-being, contentment, even joy.

What did you discover about YOUR life balance? Which statements best help you maintain your balance?

If you answered false more often than true, you may want to take a look at the statements to which you answered false and see if you can incorporate something of its message into your life.

And please don’t hesitate to call on me if you’d like to explore this issue further. Author’s content used with permission, © Claire Communications

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Why Mom Was Right About the Power of Gratitude!

Hands GratitudeThe practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

What are YOU grateful for?

Author’s content used with permission, © Claire Communications

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Getting Genuine Commitment for Change

This week I’m in Easton, Maryland, very near Frederick Douglas High School, at the 2015 College and Career Readiness Conference hosted by the Maryland State Department of Education.

I was pleased to give a keynote presentation about “Getting Genuine Commitment for Change.” Everyone here is talking about ways to implement the Common Core Standards. It’s a really dedicated group of educators who are showing up for their own learning the week after students have just left for the summer!

So this article really caught my eye. Here are four true stories about how school districts have turned around failing schools — one of them is Frederick Douglas High School. It can be done! http://ow.ly/OurJX

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The Beginner’s Guide to Win-Win.

Gate“Beyond our ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”

Rumi

How often have you been in this situation? Something bad unexpectedly happens. A fight breaks out in the school hallway. The problem lands in your lap. And everybody is talking about who is to blame and how they should “pay.”

The problem, of course, is that whatever happened is usually a very complex problem. It’s more then who gave the first shove. Could be there is some bullying history involved. OR it could be the initial shove was unintentional: one kid twists his ankle momentarily bumping against someone else who is highly sensitive. Gruff, angry words follow and the fight begins in earnest.

As principal, I’ve often found myself in this kind of situation. Teachers wanted me to “throw the book” at the kids because otherwise there will be “anarchy in the halls.” Parents wanted to be sure the “other kid” got a serious punishment or wanted me to forgive the fight because “my kid was just standing up for himself like we’ve taught him to.” And neither kid involved thinks he or she is to blame. “Not my fault. He (or she) started it! ”

How do we get to the win-win here? How do we get people past assigning blame and punishment and into actually resolving the problem so that it doesn’t become a festering wound that continues to break open again and again?

We take them to the field beyond right and wrong. We ask each side to “own” what their part in the mess is. We ask them to make their intention explicit: what do they think would be the best way to resolve this for ALL parties? We ask them to explore alternative ways to respond when this happens again so that they don’t end up in the same mess. Sometimes we even practice what that would look like and sound like.

This approach didn’t always work for me, but in a lot of the cases it did. Tempers were calmed. Bridges were built. And new ways of handling anger were explored. What started out as chaos became a teachable moment.

What kind of leader do you want to be?

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